Vilja leading

[steinbeck]

I cannot find anywhere in the dialogues to allow me to take back the lead from Vilja, as in Oblivion
She started to lead in Riverwood and I (wanting to go to High Hrothgar) took over as we seemed to be going west.
She asked repeatedly all the way there and even inside whilst I was learning the shout if she could lead again.

[Emma]

It's in her start dialog options, where you told her that you were just taking over for a little while. It's also in the main topic "Lead the way".

If you have problems, tell he rthat she can lead again for a brief while. Talk to her again, and you should definitely have the option to tell her that you'll take over now.